Why Are Your Friends' Friends So Annoying?

This blog was originally published on Xanga April 20, 2013.

 

 

Hey there Xangans! I've been trying to lay as low as possible this week. This most definitely applies to posting on "social" media sites. This past week, some of my friends' other friends have been irksome both on Facebook and Xanga. It's really annoying when you're in a good or semi decent mood. There's always that 1, obnoxious friend of another friend, who suddenly feels the need to make his/her cameo appearance with snide remarks about something you said or did.

If that's not the case, that person, who you share a mutual friend(s) with, makes a mountain out of a molehill. Don't you wish that he/she would just shut the hell up and go somewhere? I know I do. That's why I try avoiding certain people at all costs.

On Facebook, I adjusted my high school classmates/friends' status updates to "Only Important," in my news feed. Then, I block, whoever annoys me. I enjoy talking to a few friends, astrologers, celebrities, YouTube vloggers, and public figures, getting entertainment updates in my news feed, along with winning prizes. Otherwise, I would deactivate my Facebook account for the 4th time.

That site can be incredibly toxic. I usually get into a really bad mood almost every time I am using my Facebook account. I believe 1 of the main reasons is because there are friend collectors, who make me add them to their "Friends List." They hardly initiate any conversations with me.

They're predominantly 30-year-olds and younger, who are begging bar hoppers, skanking up the town at dives, and are tagged in their latest drunk face selfies. 

Otherwise, they are whining about their marital statuses or lack thereof and posting incoherent babbling updates by cell phone. Some of them should be at home raising their demon spawns, focusing on their relationships, paying their bills, and/being more productive with their time.

Considering that they barely talk to me, I don't post on their walls as much anymore. Every time they do talk to me, I have to deal with their interloping friends on their walls, who feel the need to prove their existence with snide remarks. I'll be in the middle of complimenting a friend about something or wishing our friend well. 

Suddenly, this bitch or asshole feels the need to get an attitude with me for no reason. This has also happened to me on Xanga. These are some of the exact same types of people we encounter in real life.

I'm sure almost everybody had situation when they had to share their friends with the most sickening people in existence. It seems as though those people purposely try to be annoying. I think it is partly because of jealousy, showing hierarchy by being territorial over friendships, and simply because they enjoy annoying other people. 

I do NOT mind sharing my friends with other people. However, most of the time, their other friends believe they're at a higher rank than I am because so-and-so has been friends with our friend longer, or have a "closer bond" than I do with the same friend.

There's nothing worse than having to share friends with divisive people and be forced into a position where you have to spend time together with people you despise. I've been on both ends of the spectrum. I've been torn between friends disliking each other and I have been THAT friend, who shares mutual hatred for my friend's other friend. 

I try my hardest to avoid social events where I am forced into a situation with that other person, while our mutual friend expects everything to be Kumbaya.

Whenever I know my friends dislike each other, I don't expect them to be friends just because they are both friends with me. I will individually spend my time with certain friends at a certain time. That way, there won't be any altercations. If the 2 or more happen to all become friends and get along with everybody, that's great. Although, I'm not going to force them to be all friends with each other because of me.

What are your thoughts about annoying friends of friends?

{Rant} Sensitive Vs. Butt-Hurt: What's The Difference?

This blog was originally published on Xanga, April 16, 2013.

 

Hey there Xangans! I would've published this a lot sooner but I needed at least 2 nights to somewhat relax. Reason being, I am SICK of crybabies on the Internet! 

Both 2 nights ago and last week, I have been dealing with severely butt-hurt people both on Facebook and Xanga. Most of them have been men. 

If you need to, go read my Pulse from 2 nights ago. On my Pulse, I even explain the difference between sensitive and butt-hurt people.

Let me just say, there's nothing wrong with being sensitive. I would like to think, that most people to some degree are sensitive to something. There's a difference between sensitive and butt-hurt. 

If someone is sensitive, it means they have feelings. For example, someone making offensive jokes about rape or about yesterday's explosions in Boston, shows that person is INsensitive to a SENSITIVE topic. 

Nobody should be laughing about either topic. Those jokes would give another person a perfectly good reason to be offended. This most definitely applies to those spouting rape threats online.

Then, there are butt-hurt people. These people LOVE making a mountain out of a molehill about any little thing. If you insult their precious show, they get all riled up like fanboys/fangirls because they cannot handle ANY kind of criticism about their show. Butt-hurt people are hypersensitive crybabies. 

Additional Traits Of Butt-Hurt People:

* Can't handle constructive criticism 

* Immediately reject advice about ANYTHING, especially when it can be beneficial to them

* Easily triggered by negative comments about ANYTHING, regardless if it has NOTHING to do with them AT ALL

* Throw temper tantrums like 2-year-old spoiled brats, 

* Want everybody to enable them by always tip-toeing on egg shells. 

* Easily triggered when someone says/does something they disagree with, especially when that person is not politically correct 24/7

* Sore losers that hide from their problems 

* Living in a delusional world where everything should always be bunnies and sunshine with gumdrops and unicorns falling from the sky

* Demand everyone to respect them 

* Expect nobody to EVER walk all over them YET  expect others to be their personal doormats and enablers

* Expect participation trophies for their bratty behavior

* Love playing the victim card, whenever they don't get their way about something

* Always snide but can't handle sarcastic jokes and will self-righteously bum rush someone online within a nano second to announce that they were "offended"

* Self-righteously believe it is their DIVINE RIGHT  to dictate every little thing certain people say by going out their way to correct them

This is ONLY naming a few traits butt-hurt people possess. I could list butt-hurt traits to infinity.

Why so sensitive? Are these crybabies that desperate for some Butt-Hurt Cream from the Whambulance?

Allow me to say right off the bat: If I have unintentionally offended you, I am so sorry. However, if you're the type of person, who can't handle ANYTHING someone else says or does, especially when it has NOTHING to do with you, you don't need to be online crying like a 2-year-old. 

Crybabies have helped ruin America, as well as the Internet. If you cannot handle being in cyber space and tolerating ANY jokes and/minor criticisms, you obviously cannot handle worse problems in the future. That's if those issues haven't already happened. 

You are looking at someone, who is CONSTANTLY forced to overcome adversity on a daily basis. 

I am a college graduate and a survivor of post 9/11 racism, death threats, slander, bullying, trolling, being stalked BOTH on and offline, etc. In addition, I have been unemployed for the last 5 years. Your problems are no worse than mine or anyone else's. 

So, rub on your Butt-Hurt Cream, put on your big boy/girl pants, suck on your pacifier, get in line, take a number, and deal with life like the rest of us!

If you have that many hang ups, you need to see your local shrink, ASAP! Not everybody is going to enable you. I will sympathize, empathize, try helping, and supporting you but if you think I'm your designated enabler, GUESS AGAIN!!! 

I am very blunt. If you can't handle the slightest joke, advice, or opinion from me or anybody else, you obviously will NOT  be able to handle, when somebody REALLY gives you a spanking. 

This concludes my rant, for now. You can recommend this blog or not. Whichever makes you happy!

{RANT} Demanding Vs. Commanding Respect: What's The Difference?

This blog was originally published on Xanga April 4, 2013.

 

Hey there my fellow Xangans! Sorry about not publishing another blog this entire week. 

I have been doing the usual job hunting, talking to other friends, "spring cleaning," and catching up on more Anime, which has been long overdue.  

In fact, earlier this week, I marathoned an Anime, that was released last year in Japan called, Another. It was pretty decent.

Often compared to the American Horror franchise, Final Destination, Another is a Horror Mystery Anime. Unlike High School Of The Dead and Deadman Wonderland, watching Another was much better than watching those 2 series. 

Anyway, I digress. That's not what I really meant to discuss in today's blog. Lately, I've been doing some thinking. I have noticed a number of divos and divas believing, that they can demand respect from everyone. These "divos" and "divas" are typically defiant people with huge ego trips and have a great sense of entitlement. 

We will often hear them tell us, "You just need to respect the fact, that...," "You don't know me! Show some respect!," "Respect my authority!" blah, blah, BLAH!

These are also some of the same eternal victims, who believe their lives and life experiences are so much worse than everybody else', and that nobody shares the same adversities, if not MORE than them. While demanding RESPECT, they want everyone to throw them a damn pity party.

In case these defiant and entitled divos and divas never got the memo, it doesn't quite work that way. 

Every time defiant and entitled divos and divas DEMAND respect from everybody, people like myself roll our eyes and ask ourselves, "Wait, so this person thinks I'm suppose to respect him/her because he/she says so? HA! Whatever!"

I look at it this way. If this divo/diva is not my parent, teacher, professor, boss, etc, who I DEPEND on for something, why the hell do I have to respect him/her?

Defiant and entitled divos and divas randomly demanding respect out of someone is like a damn toddler throwing a temper tantrum simply because he/she did not get his/her way.

If these people want respect so badly, they should not be begging and demanding it, while acting defiantly. Sometimes it worsens, when another person tries giving that same defiant divo/diva advice. He/she begins to assume, that EVERYBODY is trying to control him/her and start demanding respect. This somewhat goes back to people, who can't handle constructive criticism.

If these divos and divas can't handle any advice, the only other option is to sit back in the recliner chair and let them make bigger fools out themselves. If that same defiant brat wants to stick his/her finger into a plug outlet and take the risk of electrocution, I say let that brat have at it.

However, that defiant brat must remember once he/she gets electrocuted, he/she shouldn't whine about it and demand for everyone to respect him/her afterward.

If they want respect, it needs to be COMMANDED by walking in their talk. Respect must be earned by showing he/she is worthy of being respected.

Self-centered attention whores, protesters, rioters, hardcore feminists, political and religious zealots, sluts, womanizers, perpetual liars, procrastinators, photo bombers, cheap talkers, eternal "victims," serial daters, brides, and grooms, etc, etc. should be the LAST  to demand anybody's respect.

Genuinely show us WHY we should respect you WITHOUT begging and demanding for everyone to respect you like an entitled, spoiled brat. Everyone does not have to like each other, in order to respect each other.

There are those, who will say, "I don't like so-and-so, but I respect so-and-so for what he/she's doing." People can secretly admire that person for his/her actions. That's a way of EARNING respect. 

If that person takes action by walking in his/her talk, he/she deserves admiration and respect because that person EARNED it. If I say I am going to do something, I almost always follow through with it because I made it a priority to get the task done WELL. 

When the task is done well, I deserve respect and admiration WITHOUT desperately seeking validation for it.

We are all human and make mistakes and bad choices. Although, I have yet to demand for everyone in the whole world to respect me.