This blog was originally published on Xanga April 20, 2013.
Hey there Xangans! I've been trying to lay as low as possible this week. This most definitely applies to posting on "social" media sites. This past week, some of my friends' other friends have been irksome both on Facebook and Xanga. It's really annoying when you're in a good or semi decent mood. There's always that 1, obnoxious friend of another friend, who suddenly feels the need to make his/her cameo appearance with snide remarks about something you said or did.
If that's not the case, that person, who you share a mutual friend(s) with, makes a mountain out of a molehill. Don't you wish that he/she would just shut the hell up and go somewhere? I know I do. That's why I try avoiding certain people at all costs.
On Facebook, I adjusted my high school classmates/friends' status updates to "Only Important," in my news feed. Then, I block, whoever annoys me. I enjoy talking to a few friends, astrologers, celebrities, YouTube vloggers, and public figures, getting entertainment updates in my news feed, along with winning prizes. Otherwise, I would deactivate my Facebook account for the 4th time.
That site can be incredibly toxic. I usually get into a really bad mood almost every time I am using my Facebook account. I believe 1 of the main reasons is because there are friend collectors, who make me add them to their "Friends List." They hardly initiate any conversations with me.
They're predominantly 30-year-olds and younger, who are begging bar hoppers, skanking up the town at dives, and are tagged in their latest drunk face selfies.
Otherwise, they are whining about their marital statuses or lack thereof and posting incoherent babbling updates by cell phone. Some of them should be at home raising their demon spawns, focusing on their relationships, paying their bills, and/being more productive with their time.
Considering that they barely talk to me, I don't post on their walls as much anymore. Every time they do talk to me, I have to deal with their interloping friends on their walls, who feel the need to prove their existence with snide remarks. I'll be in the middle of complimenting a friend about something or wishing our friend well.
Suddenly, this bitch or asshole feels the need to get an attitude with me for no reason. This has also happened to me on Xanga. These are some of the exact same types of people we encounter in real life.
I'm sure almost everybody had situation when they had to share their friends with the most sickening people in existence. It seems as though those people purposely try to be annoying. I think it is partly because of jealousy, showing hierarchy by being territorial over friendships, and simply because they enjoy annoying other people.
I do NOT mind sharing my friends with other people. However, most of the time, their other friends believe they're at a higher rank than I am because so-and-so has been friends with our friend longer, or have a "closer bond" than I do with the same friend.
There's nothing worse than having to share friends with divisive people and be forced into a position where you have to spend time together with people you despise. I've been on both ends of the spectrum. I've been torn between friends disliking each other and I have been THAT friend, who shares mutual hatred for my friend's other friend.
I try my hardest to avoid social events where I am forced into a situation with that other person, while our mutual friend expects everything to be Kumbaya.
Whenever I know my friends dislike each other, I don't expect them to be friends just because they are both friends with me. I will individually spend my time with certain friends at a certain time. That way, there won't be any altercations. If the 2 or more happen to all become friends and get along with everybody, that's great. Although, I'm not going to force them to be all friends with each other because of me.
What are your thoughts about annoying friends of friends?
